tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178262878678330798.post84005334700831623..comments2023-08-20T07:03:13.236-07:00Comments on College At Thirty: I'm done with the shameCollege At Thirtyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10353346026765317698noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178262878678330798.post-89071880628053209912012-07-27T07:57:46.681-07:002012-07-27T07:57:46.681-07:00Bless you, most Western women know exactly how you...Bless you, most Western women know exactly how you feel. We are judged by how we look, over and above anything we achieve or what virtues we embody. But remember this - we are judged by how we look by those that have a vested interest in keeping us paranoid: by big business, by the media, by insecure men, and by women that have already been beaten down. We are not judged by how we look by the people whose opinions actually matter. <br /><br />One day it came to me that why should *I* care how I look (as long as I do people the curtesy of being clean and covering up the bits the law requires me to cover up): I don't have to look at me. What matters to me is how I feel. Am I enjoying the physical sensations or the emotional reactions of what I am doing? Do I feel spiritual fulfilled and more resilient? Did time fly because I was engaged in something fascinating? Did someone I love's face light up with delight? Did I help a stranger when they needed a kind stranger? Do I feel the satisfaction of a job well done? Do you see where I am going? Ten thousand years ago that's what women concerned themselves with. <br /><br />We do NOT have a moral duty to look sexually attractive to men because we were born female. I weep when women post a picture of themselves on fb or forums and actually apologise that their body doesn't fulfill the current Hollywood definition of sexually attractive. Even to other women.<br /><br />It's nice to glam up and look fab for fun at certain times, but for day to day the important factors are what we are doing, how we are behaving, how we are feeling. If other people don't like it, fuck 'em.roxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17716754343435995510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178262878678330798.post-31476569433891103202012-07-16T21:43:57.896-07:002012-07-16T21:43:57.896-07:00*hugs*
You inspire me. (And you are wonderful JUS...*hugs*<br /><br />You inspire me. (And you are wonderful JUST as you are, and I'll thrash anyone who says otherwise.) I should take a page from YOUR book, in all honesty.Kim Shoafhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15071353498213513868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178262878678330798.post-90674283212422628162012-07-16T11:03:05.709-07:002012-07-16T11:03:05.709-07:00Quite right too. You are beautiful.Quite right too. You are beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com